yesterday at 20:00.
Your heart might be in the right place but impact matters.
Here's How You Can Be Unintentionally Racist – And How Allies Can Recover
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yesterday at 18:01.
What the hell. (via Bustle)
Too Many Teenage Girls Have Experienced Harassment Since Election Day & It's A Pressing Problem
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Leon Gabriel Kharkongor
yesterday at 18:32
Basically Trump voters imagined that by voting in Trump they go back to a the 1700's when women were not better off than cattle
yesterday at 19:57
Hahaha dudes calling this "made up" - aren't WE the ones with victim complexes? 😊
Noah James Bell
yesterday at 19:53
This is made up. You have no political sense or intellectual arguments, so you stage fake crimes then blame Trump. Get over yourselves.
yesterday at 16:00.
She reclaimed the word "victim" after realizing other terms didn't feel right.
5 Reasons Why I Identify As a Rape Victim, Not a Rape Survivor
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yesterday at 16:18
This. Whenever somebody tells me that I'm a survivor, I make a point of telling that person that I don't appreciate being told how to describe myself.
Ashley Aldous Pangborn
yesterday at 17:08
If there are any rape victims/survivors here I would like you to know you are not alone! I spent years ashamed, isolated and silenced. I have recently found my voice through its my new project I'm doing in order to raise awareness of the long term affects of rape/trauma. Once we find our voices change is inevitable!
Saoirse del Tufo
yesterday at 17:43
I really hope this doesn't upset anyone who uses 'survivor' but victim makes linguistically more sense. If you survive murder you haven't been murdered, but if you survive rape you have still been raped. It makes total sense to use victim, no-one should be shamed for the terms they use
yesterday at 14:00.
Being undocumented isn't a choice.
10 Affirmations to Help Undocumented Immigrants Turn Panic Into Resistance
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yesterday at 12:00.
"How do you know if you have consent if it's not explicitly expressed in words?"
This Metaphor for Consent Might Be Just the Thing You Need to Make It Click
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yesterday at 17:52
This is adorable, but now I want to literally build a castle.
yesterday at 14:39
Seriously?? Let me tell you, if you aren't sure, then you never had consent. Not once.
Sarah Elisabeth Joyal
yesterday at 17:07
Now I really want to build a castle.
04/27/2017 at 20:01.
This is the difference between a compliment and an unwanted insult.
This Comic Respects Women with Short Hair on Their Own Beautiful Terms
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04/27/2017 at 20:18
I've been told that a short feminine haircut is an oxymoron, though typically by the same sort of people who insist that gender is based solely on one's genitals.
04/27/2017 at 20:17
Cutting my hair shorter and shorter is something I do in an attempt to move away from the focus on appearance. I'd rather spend time reading or sleeping than fixing my hair. Still, I know I look better in a longer bob cut - which somehow makes it even more important for me to try very short haircuts. What are your reasons for being short-haired women? :)
04/27/2017 at 20:26
I was once getting my pixie cut trimmed in the salon and a teen girl asks a guy who appears to be her dad what he'd do if she cut her hair short. He said 'I'd say you look like a fucking d*ke'. Then he saw me coming that way to the register and stopped. People are trash.
04/27/2017 at 18:00.
Hugo Schwyzer has re-emerged, and his behavior is all too common.
Abusive 'Feminist' Men Exist — Here Are 6 Things Men Can Do to Stop Them
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04/27/2017 at 18:21
Interesting. I've met these snakes, in a specific group of friends. They claim to be feminists but make misogynistic comments and rape "jokes". Its unfortunate because I initially trusted these men.
Lisa Lieberman Ross
04/27/2017 at 22:36
Men writing about feminism is a little bit like a white person writing about what it means to be black. You may have good intentions, but there's no way for you to really understand..... just try not to add to the problem
04/27/2017 at 18:06
Thank you for this. Thankfully, I never got the chance to meet an abusive 'Feminist' Man in real life (several on the internet though). I will confess that I can be guilty of silence (sometimes) because I'm generally a quiet man who is afraid of looking foolish in public (and also a bit nervous of public life, being an Aspie with slight social anxieties). But thank you for this. I will remember this.
04/27/2017 at 16:00.
Adultism is the belief that children are their parents' property.
7 Harmful Ways Parents Often Wield Adultism Against Their Kids
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04/27/2017 at 20:24
I think the article makes it clear that it's okay to show respect and appreciation for our parents contribution but also points out that abuse of power is a very legitimate reality for some.
I'm disappointed in the
"I was beaten and I turned out okay" breed. It's not normal. You didn't end up okay, you were lied to by someone more powerful than you.
04/27/2017 at 16:19
I am really disappointed to see that even an outlet like Everyday Feminism is using the word "America" to refer to the country of United States of America. You do realize this is deeply rooted in a colonialist mindset, right? I hoped by now people would know the difference between countries and continents and how using "America" to refer to a country is a deeply political choice.
04/27/2017 at 16:10
Doctorism is running amok in America too. I can't go to a hospital without being told by doctors and nurses what's wrong with me and what they think I should do. It's my body and I know best!
04/27/2017 at 14:01.
#2: "It's with me every moment of the day."
4 Reasons Why I Refuse to Say That Mental Illness 'Doesn’t Define Me' - Everyday Feminism
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04/27/2017 at 14:35
I feel like for me my illnesses have helped define me. Who I am has been shaped through my trauma, mental illness/neurodivergency.
I have to mind my mental health because I am not "better". I feel like I am in remission, I am in control of my mental health right now.
That doesn't mean I can't slip back into old patterns, or feelings.
I need to focus on my mental health so I can stay healthy. It's not all of who I am but a huge part.
04/27/2017 at 14:08
My entire personality is basically just made up of symptoms and traits from my various disorders. I'm not even really a person at this point >>
04/27/2017 at 14:12
I have mixed feelings about this. I can understand why this particular person feels this way, because they need to live with these illnesses for the rest of their lives. It can get better, but it can't be cured.
For someone like me, who suffered from depression for years, it's probably not a good idea to let an illness define you, because depression can be cured.
04/27/2017 at 12:00.
If you've ever judged someone for their work attire, this article is for you.
5 Common Assumptions You Never Realized Were Classist
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04/27/2017 at 12:11
Good list! And there are so many others that relate to some of these:
- that someone can always "network" their way into a job. Networking is a lot easier for those with money.
- that it is possible for everyone to save money, especially for retirement.
- jobs or bosses that expect doctors notes for minor illnesses.
- the expectation that everyone be able to "buy ethically" at all times.
The list goes on and on. John Scalzi has a great post about it here: whatever.scalzi.com/2005/09/03/being-poor/
Amanda K. Maples
04/27/2017 at 12:38
(Somewhat related.) Being an outspoken grammar snob is elitist, ableist, and classist. I mean, many of us have been guilty of correcting someone's spelling or grammar during a text argument, but the thing is, feelings are valid. Just because someone isn't as adept at articulating them doesn't mean they have less to contribute.
If one wants to poke holes in an ill-informed opinion, fine, but implying someone is lesser because they misspelled or scrambled some words is counterproductive at best.
04/27/2017 at 12:29
Good list it's good to look at things from a different perspective. On point 1 though, although we didn't get assigned a lot of these in the UK when I was a kid - these kinds of assignments can allow for students who are more creative to show their knowledge rather than the only way of being tested being by a written paper, which doesn't suit all people. Of course if you are going to assign these kinds of assignments a supply of materials should be made available to kids who need them.
04/26/2017 at 20:00.
Not all of our lady friends lead the same lifestyles as us – and that's okay!
3 Ways We Get Grown-Ass Woman Friendship Wrong (And How to Fix That Shit)
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04/27/2017 at 17:15
Some lifestyle choices (like obsessive dieting) are probably not going to be something I want to talk about. Or huge political differences. Some things reflect differences in values. Otherwise spot on.
04/27/2017 at 13:59
Annabelle Martin this is so fucking good, especially on the back of the girls finale
04/27/2017 at 09:53
This reads like something out of a teen magazine.
04/26/2017 at 16:00.
Hint: "You're so exotic" is not a compliment.
6 Racist and Sexist Things You Should Never Say to a Mixed Race Woman
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04/26/2017 at 16:28
Years ago, after being asked for the umpteenth time by srangers where I was from/what my background was, I started responding with, "That's really none of your business." If it was someone I was meeting through a friend, I'd ask why that was important. Their discomfort with my responses spoke volumes.
Elena Catherine Yen Suffling
04/26/2017 at 18:45
One of my faves! I'm mixed and made my parents watch this one time. It was a big moment.
04/26/2017 at 18:12
Since my BFF has children (which are mixed race) I try to educate myself more on the subject. I found point #4 very interesting, I never though of it this way.
04/26/2017 at 14:00.
This author was done having random dudes call her "honey".
3 Misogynistic 'Rules' That Held Me Back at Work – And How I've Challenged Them
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04/27/2017 at 07:21
Hannah Liddell Timm Sieweke
04/26/2017 at 12:00.
"You didn’t like that I had the nerve to stray outside of what you thought I ought to be."
I Am Queer, I Am Non-Binary, and I Don't Know What It Means to Feel Safe in Public
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04/26/2017 at 18:55
Cis women on this thread: STOP MAKING IT ABOUT US. Yes, some of the experiences expressed in this article might feel similar to what we experience, but that does not mean that we need to speak over the experiences of non-binary people. I know it might feel difficult, but this is a really good time to sit back, listen, and practice empathy instead of centering it on ourselves.
04/26/2017 at 19:23
To all you cis females- until you have experienced this as both female presenting AND non-binary you have exactly zero right to say the experience is the same. It's not and I HAVE experienced it from BOTH sides.
04/26/2017 at 15:41
Christ. I am trying not to bawl on public transit.
It's Talk Feminist Projects Tuesday!
Working on a feminist project or just excited about someone else's?
Share about it in the comments!
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04/26/2017 at 21:29
Just recently got accepted into a PhD studentship at university of glasgow, to do research with women and medical professionals in Scotland to reduce abortion stigma, very excited! I also will be helping to plan a commemorative event for the 50 year anniversary of the abortion act of 1967 (uk) to discuss the current state of abortion laws and regulations in the uk and how we can improve upon these in the future!
04/26/2017 at 01:21
I am an unproduced screenwriter, writing scripts with strong female leads or strong female co-leads. I've completed eight scripts and am working on number nine. I had two scripts among the top finishers in the Women's Film & Script competition - where they were looking for female writers or leads.
04/26/2017 at 00:06
Kat Blaque is on fire these days. I loved Sometimes You're a Caterpillar for a way of explaining privilege without raising hackles, or even to kids.
[ Youtube.com Link ]
and her (2 years ago) explainer about why Dolezal and Trans are very different is fantastic for that question too.
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-- and thank you EF for introducing me to both of this.
04/25/2017 at 20:01.
#4 is a big one: "You must be scared for your other kids."
9 Insensitive Things People Feel Fine Saying to Foster Parents
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04/26/2017 at 05:08
On a daily basis I hear these things as a foster parent. It's like the child/ren are invisible when people loose their minds to bluntly ask questions or make comments.
04/25/2017 at 22:21
I sometimes really don't get how people can't see how cruel and hurtful their comments are. You shouldn't need to read an article to know that saying things like this isn't right!
04/26/2017 at 20:04
Meghan & Ellie - but it's all about foster mums. Husbands don't seem to be foster dads. I found that quite annoying here...
04/25/2017 at 18:00.
With Rachel Dolezal back in the news, here's a reminder of this reality check on racial identity.
Why Rachel Dolezal's Fake 'Transracial' Identity Is Nothing Like Being Transgender - Take It From a Black Trans Woman Who Knows
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04/25/2017 at 23:28
Hey wonderful readers. I hid a few comments and threads that included whitesplaining and anti-trans rhetoric.
Please review our comments policy if you have any questions:
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04/25/2017 at 18:51
Why does this say that she is the NAACP president? I thought she was removed already.
04/26/2017 at 17:20
Everyone go read ijeoma oluo's piece on rachel dolezal and let's move on. no need to keep talking about this woman, it's not worth it.
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04/25/2017 at 16:01.
THIS. A million times yes.
I Am Not Your Teachable Moment
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04/25/2017 at 16:46
Would probably be a nice article, if I could read it. Keep getting redirected to spam
04/26/2017 at 00:46
I'm curious about how many people actually clicked the link and read the whole article. Because most of the comments seem to be aimed at the first picture and nothing else.
04/25/2017 at 17:36
Maybe I am just friendlier or I like people more, but if someone asked me questions, I'd be more than happy to talk about it. Even if I were in a bad mood, the fact that I would be able to teach someone something would make my day.
Also, the article talks about what the person is NOT. I am curious, what if the article talks about what the person IS. Why are we on this planet? What can we do for others? How can we make the world a better place?
04/25/2017 at 14:00.
"Since 9/11, zero deadly terror attacks have occurred with a perpetrator from these seven nations."
Why Trump's Travel Ban Isn't Making Us Safer – It's Just Making Us (More) Racist
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04/25/2017 at 18:10
If you want to Crack down on terrorism ban white men...
04/25/2017 at 12:01.
As an ally, it's important to keep yourself in check.
10 Misconceptions Every Trans Ally Needs to Understand
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04/25/2017 at 12:43
I know a lot of people are confused about trans issues and that's why they lash out... For that reason, if anyone has any questions about trans issues or my experiences as a trans woman, I'd be happy to answer them here or over PM :) Keep in mind number 10 on that list, though; I can only speak for myself or my interpretation of the issues at hand.
04/25/2017 at 18:59
I had no idea that real, actual people really, actually conflate trans people with drag performers. I'm boggled by the level of cranio-rectal inversion it must take to make that happen.
04/25/2017 at 12:28
Geography totally matters for me. i feel completely isolated.