Despite the stereotypes, it's just as common for a man to experience low sexual desire as it is for a woman. Here are the facts.
What Happens When a Man Loses Sexual Desire
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today at 00:58
Going without sex doesn't mean going without passion and enthusiasm. Sex from time to time is good, great even. Still going without sex is no more a big deal then going without drinking or other excessive pleasures. It's the Ego behind the pleasures that make it more of big deal than it actually is.
today at 02:26
Good sex is an expression of a deeper connection. Keep that in mind.
I've had ladies flirt with me sexually, but not really offer anything of who they are other than the expectation that I'd bite if they made themselves sexually available. But I don't find that attractive; I find kindess, humor, sense of adventure, ect to be attractive. You can have the most rocking body and be rich, and I'd say no unless you had a personality.
today at 00:23
When females learn that the picker does the choosing as the Millionaire Matchmaker says, you do not chase males ever. You also know that you too have the right to refuse if the picker chooses you, whether it is for one time as in one night or always.
Observation not about my life.
yesterday at 20:50.
We're often biased to like or dislike people for reasons that have nothing to do with their personality. And that can get us into trouble.
How to Become a Better Judge of People
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today at 01:37
Great Article! Who are the people that really need this though? Those who recognize that there is always more to learn that each one of us is in fact biased. Or the person that makes snap judgments on someone else simply because that person reminds them of someone else from their own past?
Charles J Goh
yesterday at 23:21
People are hard to judge, as many or most of them put up a false front, and their actions are made to impress and disarm the beholder.
yesterday at 21:48
I'm an excellent judge of people. I just don't always say it out loud. I enjoy watching it unfold. Hehehe.
yesterday at 16:45.
Why is it so hard for some partners to show that they love us, and what effect does that have on us?
The Number One Reason Many People Find It So Hard to Be Affectionate
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yesterday at 17:12
Why not consider early childhood development where a lot of emotional ties are created, so if a child does not receive that or perceived that he/she does no get the affection required obviously one day that child will grow up and will find it hard to be affectionate. IMO
yesterday at 16:51
One word: fear.
To expand these fears...it's fear of losing yourself, fear of being controlled by another, fear of living painful memories once again, fear of being exploited or taken advantage of, fear of being abandoned or other disturbing possibilities.
The beauty of this is that once you become aware of what your fears are, you know where it strikes and why. And once you know why, you can (with tons of work) overcome them.
yesterday at 18:01
The only Reason is 'Fear'.
Actually some people are introvert; and they are not expressive in terms of showing either their needs; desires or even love for their partner. And it's only because they are afraid to lose so called 'self-esteem'if the same is not responded in desired manner. So they prefer to keep 'mum' but for sure the try their best to express their emotions by 'gestures'... only need is to understand and recognize them.
yesterday at 12:42.
No, you don't need to lie on a couch. (You can even meet on Skype.)
Psychoanalysis: Separating the Myths from the Facts
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yesterday at 14:02
I prefer Gestalt Therapy. Much less chance of someone else's unconscious messing up the interpretations. I'd rather grow my own awareness then have someone else do it for me.
yesterday at 13:33
Why bother to go for psychoanalysis when you can have hypnotherapy and deal with the unconscious directly some may wonder.
yesterday at 15:10
If one is saying something important, then clarity is key, just as body language is to a face to face meeting - which is far better imo.
New research on sex is finding benefits deeper than simply boosting mood and fostering good health.
For a Profound Sense of Meaning in Life, Have Sex
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yesterday at 00:22
Sometimes, I say weird things during intercourse, like "I love you" and/or "Please look directly into the camera and say you have agreed to this."
yesterday at 06:17
If that's what does it for you, I'm not interested personally but everything does different things for different people.
I prefer to find my own meaning to life though, since it is my life, lol.
Simply stating that sex is needed to find profound meaning in your existence is very detrimental though, especially for those who are repulsed, uncomfortable or uninterested in the act.
yesterday at 09:57
If you're just having sex for the sake of having it, it doesn't make you happy. You don't even have fun doin' it. Especially when it feels like "paid-sex". Happiness is the result of many factors in your life. Sex can be one of these. Everyone has to find his own meaning in life.
06/20/2017 at 21:48.
Research proves that your partner is likely to tune you out if you go on the attack. But you already knew that. Here's an approach that works much better.
5 Ways to Help Your Partner Hear You (Without Yelling)
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06/20/2017 at 21:56
My ex wife yelled at me once, to get out of the house... "I hate you, I want a divorce! Get out!" As I walked out the door she screamed: "I hope you die a slow and painful death!" I said: "So hang on a minute, now you want me to stay?"
06/20/2017 at 21:55
You cannot use I statements with some people!
I could never use it with my ex, he would say " listen to yourself Mel, I think, I feel, I need... it's all about you"
For some maybe a we instead of I might work better!
yesterday at 02:54
Yes. When my psycho exwife started the screaming, demanding and threatening after the fake pregnancy to get me to marry, I not only tuned her out, I cut her off. Yelling, threatening, beating me, blackmail with false claims, etc...don't work with me. Attempted murder doesn't either.
06/20/2017 at 18:30.
Could texts and instant messages torpedo your relationship? A growing body of research suggests that they could.
The Growing Danger of Digital Infidelity
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06/20/2017 at 18:41
My ex used his FB specifically to message other women inappropriately. He cheated on me twice and both times started out as friending each other on FB and then messages started. I saw some of their messages and it's completely hurtful. If you aren't happy, leave the relationship then pursue someone else.
Jeannette Farji S
06/20/2017 at 19:18
Some people don't realize that infidelity doesn't need to involve physicality. Texting can be very intimate, the constant preoccupation with others' activities on Facebook, etc. can be very damaging to a relationship. I knew someone who was quite addicted to this. Very disrespectful to "the one" you're with!
06/20/2017 at 19:23
Cheating and lying aren't struggles, they're reasons to break up.
Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up with him, saying 'You gave me the wrong key!
06/20/2017 at 16:01.
Don't let stress freeze you in place. These tips can help you push through the tasks that are holding you back.
10 Ways to Deal With Your Most Unpleasant Tasks
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yesterday at 01:37
Shannon VanEe. Like this page their articles are so good
06/20/2017 at 19:54
Job, Bank Credit, Strange People - Breakfirst, Assad, Trump... Midday Meal ... Monsanto, ... .. somwhat later North korea, some African States and and od.
yesterday at 03:16
Self harm? ?? Eeeeewwwwww!!!! 😣😣😣
06/20/2017 at 14:02.
Help decide the next cover of Psychology Today and share your thoughts by taking this quick survey!
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Psychology Today Magazine Reader Survey
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06/20/2017 at 15:12
Do we lose ambition as we get older? If so, how do we counteract that?
06/20/2017 at 17:25
I would subscribe again if the print size were a little bigger.
I can't be the only one that finds it hard to read it.
yesterday at 03:14
Farhan Ali_ Lara Cox read NG, that is nice and best. PT is stupid.
06/20/2017 at 12:00.
If you're too embarrassed to ask for help, consider this: Research shows that people will like you better when you let them do you a favor.
5 Reasons to Stop Being Shy and Ask for Help
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06/20/2017 at 12:25
First you must deal with your odds. But when you can't, thete thete is no harm for seeking help from someone who should be trustworthy and the best part if s/he could understands too...
Of course the best who can understand you is only you. But still if fails to sort out DON'T hasitate and ask for help.
And if no one is there, then I'm always there.
06/20/2017 at 13:43
There's also the problem of asking too often, to the point where folks steer clear of you. Or, they're so overwhelmed in their own life, that they have no choice but to say "Sorry, but...". Then I get embarrassed for even asking in the first place. 😕
06/20/2017 at 13:36
I HATE asking for help, but in my situation I won't refuse it. But how does a person keep from becoming complacent, once they GET the help? ("Eh, I'm ok, _______ is helping me.")
Turns out, there's something you can learn from (healthy) narcissists.
How Narcissists Really React When Things Don’t Go Their Way
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06/20/2017 at 00:06
Whether a narcissist is Grandiose or vulnerable, don't ever fool yourself into thinking they can change, not when their ego has to be protected at all costs.
06/20/2017 at 00:36
My ex is his way or no way. Never working together, never compromising. 98% of the time I give him what he asks but when I ask for something it's no. If I ever say no then it's 20 horrific bashing emails. You can never disagree with a narc or they come after you. He uses my kids to tell them nasty things and wants them to pick sides. It's horrific. He's so fake on social media by posting things with the kids like he's father of the year. He will never understand how they cry to me about him.
06/20/2017 at 00:09
This term has become so freely used and diluted, i'm not even sure what it means anymore. When i was a kid growing up, i rarely heard the term used.
06/19/2017 at 21:21.
Who is most likely to lie to you? It's probably not who you think.
7 Signs That Someone's Lying to You
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06/20/2017 at 02:04
I learned this in college. Now I'm a human lie detector. Human behavior is not so limited as stated in research There are many, many, many other tells. Still, we all know when someone is being dishonest or disingenuous by the way it makes you feel. My gut never lies.
06/20/2017 at 01:16
It's been said deception is hard to verify. But one paradigm suggests comparing comfort and discomfort. Liars tend to leak discomfort more than honest people. Looking at the degree of comfort is less subject to conscious control... Examples include... position of the feet...
Darlene Lynn Ivey
06/19/2017 at 22:33
Cant go by 'signs'. Those are only a small possible part in a totality of circumstances, not to be relied on. Please dont base any lie/not lie decisions on them.
06/19/2017 at 18:15.
A couple can bounce back from one partner's betrayal, but it has to start with total honesty.
What Really Happens in a Couple After Infidelity
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06/19/2017 at 19:03
Broken trust can never be fixed. 'A broken plate glued back together will always be a broken plate...'
06/19/2017 at 18:45
Like the article says, the adulterer must be honestly remorseful for the act and the pain it caused, and be committed to fixing the problems that caused it. So many are just mad they got caught.
06/19/2017 at 18:30
Sometimes some people are more upset that they got caught than the fact they cheated!
06/19/2017 at 15:46.
Recent research finds that trying to live a longer, happier life doesn't have to make you miserable.
4 Surprising (and Fun) Secrets to a Happier, Healthier Life
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06/20/2017 at 15:03
Seems like bias research to me, unless you buy into the idea that it's impossble to be happy without being in a relationship and having sex. It does make wonder who they asked their questions to...
06/19/2017 at 17:04
2 out of 4 isn't so bad....I will continue to eat chocolate & drink coffee ☕
06/19/2017 at 17:48
but, "..wife increased the chance of a car accident by 50 percent" just splendid!
06/19/2017 at 12:00.
Everyone has the power to build their mental strength. These questions can help you figure out what you need to work on.
Are You Mentally Strong?: 27 Questions to Help You Find Out
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06/19/2017 at 14:54
Trying to build up one's mental strength, is exhausting. Especially if you're not used to it. I end up waking at 4 a.m., because the stress of being without a job, takes over. The only way I can get a "mental change of scenery", is to turn my phone on and explore stuff. I'd LIKE to do it on my own, but that doesn't seem possible. That, frustrates me.
06/19/2017 at 12:11
Yes! Everyone has a strength to be 'mentally-strong'. Only Need is to be 'Focused' n 'Determined'. Because varied thoughta can NEVER help out...
06/20/2017 at 10:11
Mental strength comes out of your sincere efforts done by you .If you are honest in your works and duties ,half of your fear and illusion disappear. For the rest one has to be positive and curious for the things and events happening around you
06/18/2017 at 23:00.
Abuse in a relationship is all about trying to maintain control and power over a partner. Here's what to watch out for.
15 Common Types of Verbal Abuse in Relationships
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06/18/2017 at 23:35
They forgot gas lighting - an attempt to discredit the victim and to try and distort their reality. Happened to me daily so I actually had to keep a journal of events. But all of that is pointless if they are sociopaths, bc they have no empathy and zero problems with a smear campaign to also discredit the victim. Lying and gas lighting is just the start. Maybe this article doesn't consider that to be verbal abuse? Learning about these personality disorders can keep us safe so thank you!
06/18/2017 at 23:05
Sadly after they get married, some people see their partner's true colors and end up trapped.
06/18/2017 at 23:29
I am glad to see the use of she OR he. The majority of articles on abuse only present the man as the abuser, ignoring the startling statistics on female abusers. Good article, great job!
06/18/2017 at 20:00.
Does something seem "wrong" with a child who had always been friendly, cheerful, and open? Welcome to adolescence.
29 Signs That a Child Has Become an Adolescent
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06/19/2017 at 00:57
my son is 16 and the last year has been difficult for me. i cant deal with the disrepectful tone of his voice. i was too fearful to talk to my parent like that when i was his age. he and i were very close when he was smaller,just the two of us. and although i know it is a neccessary phase i cant help but feel personally hurt. so much that i am starting to wish he would move out asap. it is unbearable to argue on a daily basis. so toxic.
06/18/2017 at 20:38
I have a 12 year old daughter. She has shown a gradual increase over the years in many of these things. She is going through puberty, too. It's good to know she is "normal" and I should ease up a bit because I am sure it isn't easy for her, too.
06/18/2017 at 22:23
I'm feeling this the most with my 3rd child. I had a strong early childhood bond with him, maybe it is me grieving this rather than him being the 'pain!'.
06/18/2017 at 16:00.
Surprising new research explores a hidden corner of human attraction. But is it true?
Are Women Attracted to Partners Who Resemble Their Brothers?
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06/18/2017 at 16:26
I don't know that this is true physically but I do think we are subconsciously attracted to "the devil we know". The brand of dysfunction we grew up in is familiar and therefore comfortable. How many of us have a woken up a couple years into a relationship and realized "OMG. I married my father/mother"?
06/18/2017 at 17:28
Well, my husband and I always joke that we see a lot of couples who look like they could be brother and sister 😂! Who knows! I do think it is possible that people find certain similarities to their own facial structures attractive... but maybe I'm just full of bologna 😁!
06/18/2017 at 16:17
I definitely do NOT get attracted by men who look like my brothers...
However, I only "really" fall, open up to, let my guards down & go for guys who have lots of common personality traits with my dad... (specific things I admired in my father's - nothing to do with his physical appearance)
06/18/2017 at 14:35.
Dads really matter, perhaps more than they realize. This is just some of what they do for their families.
7 Ways Dads Can Raise Emotionally Healthy Kids
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Desiree K. Smith
06/18/2017 at 17:01
Wow finally a photo that represents other races. Most of what is posted on your page represents white people and families. Please consider being more inclusive in the future.
06/19/2017 at 11:34
Father is as important as a Mother. It's True most of the time; May other's role is being appreciated but it doesn't mean a Father's grace is nowhere or less! A Father may be a strict one or less expensive (in terms of emtions); but He Loves equally to his children as a Mother does...
06/18/2017 at 15:04
I got 6 out of 7 down pat, honoring my ex isnt one of them
06/17/2017 at 23:00.
There are complicated reasons why many people choose to stay single, but it starts with freedom of choice.
76 Reasons to Stay Single
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Katie Powell Brown
06/18/2017 at 00:30
Got married at 18. 22 years and still going strong. I have never at any time felt like my freedom to make choices for myself were hindered in any way, shape, or form. My husband and I are both respectful towards one another's independence. We enjoy being together but are happy to spend time apart as well. We have separate hobbies, interests, friends...
It's about trust and mutual respect.
06/18/2017 at 00:28
It's sad we live in a world where anyone feels the need to defend their choice to be single
06/18/2017 at 00:22
Widowed after 37 years. I loved him, but being free is amazing. I have no desire to date at all. I'm so happy that I will get these little "zings " of joy that are actually physical.